Telling Too Much…

autumn sunsetI have noticed a trend where people feel free to speak, write, and generally inform the world about matters that one would think they’d only share with a few close friends. In a tell-all society, is there such a thing as telling too much?  I believe so. And here are my reasons:

1) Kids, as well as adults, have a right to work out their problems without the world’s gaze judging them in the middle of a difficult situation.  When parents and friends post to the world some indiscretion or issue they are currently having with a particular person – they might well brand that person at a vulnerable moment in their lives with a destructive image they cannot shake no matter how hard they try. After all, how do you follow up and tell everyone in internet-world that the aforementioned issue is now resolved?

2) Frankly, not everyone is an expert full of wisdom.  Personal issues between husbands and wives, and intimate others, especially sexual in nature, should be reserved for those who can treat the subject with the respect and candor it deserves. How can people who have no real understanding of the hearts, minds, and souls of the individuals really make a fair assessment?  Yet, as we become aware of other’s intimate lives, we all suddenly feel like experts, and if the public comments on Yahoo are any guide, often people feel free to spout all sorts of personal opinions without concerning themselves with the effect it might have on another person. Privacy allows intimate relationships to flourish through bad times as well as good for the very reason that serious problems can be faced without the intense shame that often distorts and destroys relationships.

3) Finally, we forget that often times we need inner discernment as much, or even more, than input from others.  In other words – try talking to yourself before revealing things to others.  Take the matter slowly.  Think about it, pray about it, and if need be, share your worries/anger/fears with a respected few who have won your trust over time. Respect yourself and others enough not to wave about your, and others, personal lives as little more than attention-seeking pennants, falling at the feet of the altar of Pay-Attention-To-Me gods. You and your loved ones are worth more than that.

There is a lot to be said for the power of the internet to connect human beings but only if we remember our humanity and our dignity in the process.